It occurred to me today that Mac was raising all kinds of obstacles to his successful Wi trip in his head. These obstacles became so big to him that they stressed him into a breakdown. He was afraid that he wouldn't be able to park in handicap parking. He was afraid of the stairs up to our bedroom. He was overwhelmed about packing things into the truck to take out there, (things that he was insisting we had to take). He was just getting more and more freaked about the whole thing. His physical problems turn into mental problems and then those mental things turn into worse physical things. It is a very nasty cycle.
I'm on to him now. I am not going to take him to AA to stay at Karen's house because she has a half flight of stairs. We are going to hit the road to Florida and stay in motels along the way (handicapped rooms on the first floor) and we will take as many nights as it takes. He really wants to get down there and get to see our doctor down there as the one up here seems useless for his more complicated conditions.
Also I am making him cut up his food and eat little bites at a time and wash it down with water and I try to make sauces for everything and soups. He can't swallow properly either. You wonder what will go next?? It is very frightening to him and hard on me too. Going down hill like this is worse than just going.
Friday, November 5, 2010
Thursday, November 4, 2010
Sad start and a happy ending for today!!
Today has been very frightening. Mac woke up with severe pains in his muscles all down the back from his waist to his calves. I gave him too much medicine for them. The tramadol I gave him at first wasn't strong enough so I added an Aleve and he went to bed and didn't get up until 4. The pain was gone after awhile and he was just out of it on the drugs. I am taking him off of Lovastatin, which is a drug associated with muscle pain, and we will see if that helps him at all. I am playing doctor, but I just don't want him to suffer.
We had to cancel our plans to go to Wis. tomorrow. We will see if he thinks he can do it on Sat. Right now the thought just overwhelms him, as much as he wants to see his grandsons skate.
He was much better tonight and I got the nicest phone call from Shannon. She told me that she had passed her CNA licensing exam, and that it wasn't an easy test. During the test a very touching moment had occurred. One of her classmates had requested an oral exam and had paid an extra fee for it, because she was from Thailand and didn't understand written English as well as oral. They forgot to bring a reader for her and she was toughing it out and another of her classmates (an aging hippy) got everyone (and they sounded like a very diverse group of classmates) to hold hands and pray for the poor girl who was having the trouble with English. One girl was only 17 and just out of a group home and needed this certification to be independent, another was middle-age hispanic, they were all women, but from all different types of back grounds and they held hands and prayed for their friend and it worked. All of them passed the test!!
The other thing she told me that just touched my heart, was that the paper doll set that I had sent to my 7 year old grand-daughter had created a storm of paper dolling out there in California and that Sofie had copied my technique and made a doll for Shannon's friend Thalia by cutting up a photo with THalia's picture on it and using that for the face. Sofie was also using a photo printer that I had given them last year and made a bunch of photos to send to me. I feel like a sent out a creative seed and that it took root in some well fertilized soil and that a huge creative flower was in bloom.
Last week Anja called to tell me how much she had loved her birthday present, which was a pair of DVD's about dragons, and had come by mail from me. She won't be that thrilled about dragon DVDs much longer, she is 12 now and I love that she is still a little girl in any way at all.
We had to cancel our plans to go to Wis. tomorrow. We will see if he thinks he can do it on Sat. Right now the thought just overwhelms him, as much as he wants to see his grandsons skate.
He was much better tonight and I got the nicest phone call from Shannon. She told me that she had passed her CNA licensing exam, and that it wasn't an easy test. During the test a very touching moment had occurred. One of her classmates had requested an oral exam and had paid an extra fee for it, because she was from Thailand and didn't understand written English as well as oral. They forgot to bring a reader for her and she was toughing it out and another of her classmates (an aging hippy) got everyone (and they sounded like a very diverse group of classmates) to hold hands and pray for the poor girl who was having the trouble with English. One girl was only 17 and just out of a group home and needed this certification to be independent, another was middle-age hispanic, they were all women, but from all different types of back grounds and they held hands and prayed for their friend and it worked. All of them passed the test!!
The other thing she told me that just touched my heart, was that the paper doll set that I had sent to my 7 year old grand-daughter had created a storm of paper dolling out there in California and that Sofie had copied my technique and made a doll for Shannon's friend Thalia by cutting up a photo with THalia's picture on it and using that for the face. Sofie was also using a photo printer that I had given them last year and made a bunch of photos to send to me. I feel like a sent out a creative seed and that it took root in some well fertilized soil and that a huge creative flower was in bloom.
Last week Anja called to tell me how much she had loved her birthday present, which was a pair of DVD's about dragons, and had come by mail from me. She won't be that thrilled about dragon DVDs much longer, she is 12 now and I love that she is still a little girl in any way at all.
Years Later
I haven't been blogging for two years. I want to get back into this as I am on a different kind of journey. My husband has some form of dementia and I need to cope emotionally and help him at the same time. My thought is that if I keep track of what works along the way I might be more effective.
Wednesday, December 17, 2008
Christmas Parties and Fun
We had a Christmas Party at the Park last night and one at the bridge club today. I enjoyed them both very much. I ended up coming in 2nd overall at the bridge party besides having a ball.
The weather has been great. Mac and I are enjoying our new furniture here in Florida.
Tues. I went to see "Australia" with my girlfriends. My good friend Harry is coming Monday and Mac and I are going to the theater on Sun.
Tomorrow night Evan is playing at Joe Louis between periods of a hockey game in front of a crowd of people.
When I am not out playing I play scrabble with Beth on the computer.
Thursday, December 4, 2008
Florida Home
Mac and I had a hard trip down from Michigan. We left the Sat. after Thanksgiving and the traffic on Sat was fine, but Sun. after Atlanta it was one traffic jam after another. We finally stopped overnight in Gainsville to get off of the road. I hate I-75 any time, but this was the worse. I heard from some neighbors down here that it was still bad on Monday. (The construction, the accidents, etc.)
Mac and I have been working all week on unpacking and getting new equipment for our house. We are being welcomed here with open arms and it feels real nice to be here. Mac's nephew, John Sparks, dropped in the first day we were here. He was coming by on his way back from Lake City. We had lunch together and Mac and John fixed the bathroom sink leak.
Today we went to the doctor to get our regular blood work done. We aren't sick at all, but we usually get a cholesterol, liver, and blood sugar test twice a year (maintenance). We both weighed 90.4 which was low for me. He weighs less than me usually.
The weather has been a little chilly and we have had the furnace on a few times. It is sooooo much better than Michigan though, anyway you look at it.
Mac and I have been working all week on unpacking and getting new equipment for our house. We are being welcomed here with open arms and it feels real nice to be here. Mac's nephew, John Sparks, dropped in the first day we were here. He was coming by on his way back from Lake City. We had lunch together and Mac and John fixed the bathroom sink leak.
Today we went to the doctor to get our regular blood work done. We aren't sick at all, but we usually get a cholesterol, liver, and blood sugar test twice a year (maintenance). We both weighed 90.4 which was low for me. He weighs less than me usually.
The weather has been a little chilly and we have had the furnace on a few times. It is sooooo much better than Michigan though, anyway you look at it.
Saturday, November 22, 2008
Winter is Here
I haven't blogged in ages. I have been to busy with Scrabulous, Wordscraper, and now Lexulous to do anything else whenever I have a bit of computer time. It is very stimulating though. What am I grateful for today--my cold is getting better, no new snow, enough energy to go off to Yoga at 8 in the morning, that I can spend the Thanksgiving holiday with family, that my Christmas newsletter is done and a lot of my Christmas shopping.
Sofie's giggle, as Anja opened the birthday present from her on October 30th, still echoes in my mind. She was so excited about the gift that it was a miracle she hadn't yet told Anja what it was already.
I just love being a grandma!!!
Sofie's giggle, as Anja opened the birthday present from her on October 30th, still echoes in my mind. She was so excited about the gift that it was a miracle she hadn't yet told Anja what it was already.
I just love being a grandma!!!
Wednesday, June 25, 2008
Puzzling!!?
When I had all of the company last week I didn't bother to go to the Library and collect my weekly NYT Sunday crossword. I went in Mon. and got the two I had missed with a bonus puzzle. I have been sick all week. Great gobs of green and chartreause snot come out of my nose and lungs. I have been hoarse and tired. Regardless of this I was able to do one of the crosswords 100% and the other all but about 3 squares and the bonus in about 3 hours Monday night. Last night I did my very first Killer Sudoku. (My sister Beth gave me a hint about them when she was here.) I guess my body is sick but my mind works OK.
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